Anon. To be fair, BR has never been the group that stays neutral on controversial topics. Our very open discussions about prong collar use, spay/aborts for pregnant dogs, our yearly march in the SF gay pride parade, etc.- It's fairly common for people to withdraw support when their buttons are pushed.
Personally? When I read that a five year old boy was handcuffed at the Dulles Airport on Jan 31, it was all I needed to push this topic out to our circles. Some might explain that child’s treatment away, but it was a line in the sand moment for me. How can we ever take ourselves seriously again as humane workers or ‘rescuers’ if we accept news of a five year old handcuffed by US authorities?
I regret that you feel this topic has marginalized us, because it's certain that we have much more in common with each other than most. And I especially regret that you feel you have to stay Anonymous during such an important discussions.
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Mid May – when spring is in full force and the kiss of summer is so close you can almost taste it – is one of my absolute favorite times of year. There are countless reasons I enjoy this season so much, but one of the biggest is finally being able to spend time outside, especially in the evenings. For me, the joy of transforming our outdoor space from a (literally) barren winter deck to our own little oasis filled with plants and flowers and a comforting vibe is genuinely intoxicating. I love it you guys. Every single day I look forward to finishing work and spending time relaxing in that space with my family. There is nothing better
While adding some outdoor accessories and plants is important to building our little spring and summer sanctuary, the biggest transformation for me (see the “before” directly above; meh) is the ambience created with products from The TIKI Brand Clean Burn Tabletop System. Our outdoor space admittedly isn’t much – it’s a small, elevated deck that overlooks other suburban townhouses. Right now, we don’t have a big yard, or a fire pit or fireplace, or anything impressive happening out back. But with the help of TIKI Brand Clean Burn Firepieces and Fuel, we are able to design an area that, thanks to rich, bright, long-burning flames, feels and looks as warm and glowing as the fanciest summertime yards. For real.
My regular readers know I’ve sung TIKI Brand’s praises before, but I truly can’t say enough about their Clean Burn Tabletop System. TIKI has reinvented fire you guys. I absolutely love that their Clean Burn Torch Fuel is an 85% plant-based formula (which burns much cleaner than traditional fuels) without a smoky mess, and that just one bottle of it provides 24 hours of burn time. I also love that they offer such a wide variety of pieces (and as you can see, we have a bunch of them; I’ll tell you more about my favorites in a minute) in all sorts of different styles – each of which creates a beautiful, bright, brilliant flame that can completely transform any outdoor space. We use them constantly this time of year – for everything from dinner parties and gatherings with friends to family nights outdoors. The three step burner system is also incredible easy to use, which in my admittedly chaotic life (seriously, I am flustered 90% of them time) is a major bonus.
There are several TIKI Brand Firepieces we use for our spring and summertime outdoor spaces, which we rotate depending on occasion and mood. (Sometimes, if we’re really feeling it, we use them all at the same time.) One of my personal favorites is the Clean Burn Tabletop Firepiece in Bronze Ceramic, which is made out of a beautiful bronze finished ceramic with pretty, decorative glass stones and creates the perfect centerpiece. It feels like our own mini backyard firepit, right on our deck table.
I’m also a big fan of the Clean Burn Tabletop Firepiece with FlameShield, which features a gorgeous cutout design through which the flame can literally illuminate the whole tabletop. Two of my other favorites, which stay on our deck all season long, are the Clean Burn Tabletop Firepiece in Burlap and the Earth Tone Citronella Wax Candle. Both of these pieces have an earthy vibe and go so well with our decor. The candle burns for up to 32 hours, and the Firepiece, like the others in the system, burns for 3+ hours with wick technology that minimizes spilling. Other favorites include their colorful, modern Clean Burn Tabletop Firepiece in Red Glass and Teal Glass (which may look familiar if you remember seeing our deck last summer). For gatherings, I also love the Urban Metal Torch, which to me has that quinticesstial TIKI summertime party feel. Combined with the Easy Pour Wide Mouth Canister, it’s also an easy fill, and has a full flame lasts up to 5 hours. Pretty great, right?
I look forward to this time of year for months, and the day where I first get to set it all up feels like Christmas. Sitting out there surrounded by plants and flowers and the warm glow of the goodies from the TIKI Brand Clean Burn Tabletop System feels like paradise to me.
If you’re a fan of creating an outdoor oasis at your home like I am, I highly recommend picking up The TIKI Brand Clean Burn system. There is nothing like the ambience it creates.
Happy outdoor season, friends!
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The Jackson Galaxy Foundation, founded in 2014, is the realization of cat behaviorist and the host of Animal Planet’s My Cat From Hell, Jackson Galaxy and his long-standing dream of bettering the lives of animals at risk and helping the people who care for them.
“I am thrilled to launch the Jackson Galaxy Foundation to improve the lives of sheltered animals and their dedicated advocates. As a long time rescue worker, my heart belongs to the welfare of all animals. I know that knowledge and innovation will save more lives. The pieces are in place, the technology is available, the passion is alive, and the time to act is now.”
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Thank you to The Jackson Galaxy Foundation and the Baltimore County Animal Service for making a WHOLE lot of difference for pets in your community.
Dog lovers in the largest city in the Lone Star state will be in seventh heaven when the seventh annual Houston Pet Expo comes to town for a weekend devoted to all our friends with fur, fins…
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Sorry for the short notice, but I just received this from our friends at Pets for Patriots. They are asking that we vote for Jameson as an Emerging Hero in the 2017 American Humane Hero Dog Awards. Voting ends today at 3pm Eastern! Despite the cruelty inflicted upon him as a young pup Jameson has […]
On May 3rd, a flight is scheduled to leave Memphis carrying 110 loving, healthy pets from Southern states’ overcrowded shelters – to shelters in the Northwest where they’re killed to be quickly adopted! Most of these dogs and cats wouldn’t survive if they don’t make this flight.
Last month, the Freekibble community helped fly hundreds of pets to freedom – that would not have survived otherwise. The response was so great, that they created Freekibble Flights to Freedom.
In shelters across the country, highly adoptable dogs and cats are euthanized just because the shelters are overcrowded. In other areas, shelters have a shortage of adoptable pets. Freekibble is working with Wings of Rescue to save homeless pets by flying them to shelters where they’re likely to be quickly adopted! Wings of Rescue flew 10,000 pets to new homes last year alone!
Halo Pets will be donating 10,000 bowls of Halo kibble with WHOLE meat (and NO “meat meal” of ANY kind) to shelters receiving the animals — because WHOLE meat makes a whole lot of difference!
Don’t forget to play Freekibble.com to help feed hungry pets and as always, Halo will donate a bowl to a shelter every time YOU buy. Thank you for helping #HaloFeeditForward.
I got this question from Taylor, who listens to my NPR radio show DOG TALK ®(and Kitties, Too!) as well as to CAT CHAT® on the Radio Pet Lady Network. She describes a pretty awful out-of-control, out-of-litter-box situation:
“We have two cats and three dogs in our family along with our toddler-aged daughter. It’s always crazy at our house, especially with my husband being military and having to move all the time, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. There is however one thing I would certainly change, and that’s our male cat constantly peeing on things. Cat pee is negatively impacting nearly every aspect of my life, causing anxiety, stress, and taking its toll on our patience for each other and the other animals.
This has been going on for three years now. The cat has lulls that are sometimes a month or two long where he’s a model kitty citizen, despite the fact that he’s probably ruined a couple thousand dollars worth of our things. But in our recent move it has been out of hand. He’s peeing on everything, including the litter box occasionally if we’re lucky. I’d say that four days out of the week we wake up or find something he has urinated on, even though we’ve spent these last few years trying to keep him away from all clothes, bedding, pillows that are his “favorites” to pee on. But now he is now peeing on our kitchen counter! I woke up to it this morning and then again an hour or two later he peed there again, despite using an enzyme cleaner the first time.
It has reached the point that sometimes we cannot sleep at night, which spills over into the next day, so there are times I’m too tired to be the parent my child deserves.
We’ve reached out to so many different people, groups, and forums only to get the same answers over and over again. I think if I get another one like that I might have to be committed! We’ve tried adding litter boxes, trying different kinds of litter boxes, cleaning the litter box twice a day, moving their locations, and oh the different kinds of litter. We’ve taken him to the different vets multiple times throughout the last few years just for this issue and after getting a clean bill of health, we hear the same advice over again, things that we have already tried and handful of times and things that we’re continuously trying. My husband is military and I’m a stay-at-home parent to our daughter and the furry ones, so money is occasionally tight. This makes the situation even more frustrating for us because we have spent so much money and made so many cuts to our budget throughout this time period.
We refuse to give up on him because he’s family and we know there has to be some sort of answer that works for us, we just have to keep searching but it’s been three years of this and we are at our limit. If we don’t get some sort of help, we’re going to have to build some sort of outside enclosure. But that’s the last option, he’s overall very loving and I’d hate to separate him from us.
My answer to Taylor:
I’m so sorry. This sounds like a very difficult situation. My first suggestion would be to go to the veterinarian for a full checkup since urinary and kidney problems can cause out-of-litter box issues but you have already done that. You’ve also been vigilant in cleaning your litter boxes, having multiple ones, and experimenting to see what litters he accepted (I wonder if you tried Cat Attract litter, which has herbs that draw cats into the box and is often used with cats who are “litter box challenged”?)
However, I think the major problem here is pretty simple: too much change and stress! You said yourself you’re “moving all the time,” you have a toddler (a big challenge to cats) and multiple other animals (which is a ton of creatures for a naturally solitary cat to deal with). You don’t mention when you got the other cat and three dogs but I’ll bet those periods of introduction are linked to his peeing. As your first sentence says, “It’s always crazy at our house.” Some pets can roll with the crazy, some can’t.
Your frequent relocation is clearly the biggest issue. Moving over and over explains why the kitty is fine and then he isn’t. Having adjusted to a new place he is then removed from it all over again and expresses his emotional misery at the chaos and upheaval by peeing. For many cats, stress will cause them to mark territory.
Cats hate change, especially in their environment, which is why they say about cats that their comfort and security comes from where they live: they will choose a place over a person, if it comes down to it. You hear of cats who have lived happily with a family for years, but if they move he will travel a long distance to return to the original home.
You are good-hearted to say he’s part of your family and you don’t want to give up on him, but maybe the kindest thing is to recognize that loving him means giving him a stable, secure predictable environment. The kindest thing would be to find him a living situation that suits him better, unless you are not going to move again – in which case I think you should create that “catio” outside for him. And I’d also recommend that you give him his own space in the house away from all the hub-bub. It’s unlikely that is possible.
I rarely recommend re-homing a cat, and generally we all say, “Love means never giving up on an animal” but that’s not always the case. There are some things we cannot change or fix. Sometimes we need to see things for what they are, not what we wish they were. For three whole years your cat’s behavior has been a nightmare for you – but your lifestyle has been very hard on him at the same time, which you haven’t realized. Your family deserves better. And so does the cat.
Was there somewhere you lived previously that he seemed most happy and possibly the current owners would welcome him back? Or might there be someone you know who isn’t going anywhere and has a peaceful home where the cat can have peace and quiet with a loving human companion? Do you know anyone whose kind of life might be a better fit for him? I salute your devotion to him, but your whole family suffering from that dedication, and that includes the pussy cat. I’ll have my paws crossed for a solution that brings true happiness to all of you.